Who are your nearest and dearest friends? I read a statistic that the biggest majority of your lifelong friends are from high school and the second biggest group are from college. It’s true for me.
The philosopher Aristotle said, “In poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge. They keep the young out of mischief; they comfort and aid the old in their weakness, and they incite those in the prime of life to noble deeds.”
That all may be true, but for me, my friends and I loved to “get into” mischief…lots of it. Those old stories always come up at class reunions, too. My high school class was mid-small, 106 of us. My class has had a monthly dining group, an ongoing reunion so to speak, every month for over 50 years. I tell people that and they are astounded. A large group of my classmates, like me, have moved far away from our home town. It’s always wonderful to plan that home town visit to make sure one can attend the monthly reunion. There are always 30+ friends with big smiles and gracious hearts welcoming us back. Monthly e-mails announce where the next dinner will be held. At every dinner, marbles are drawn to see who will pick and reserve the next place for the next month. Although I’m 2000 miles away, I try to host a silent toast to my friends on that monthly date. I feel fortunate to have such incredible friends.
Oscar Wilde emphasized the altruistic aspect of true friendship when he said, “Anybody can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathize with a friend’s success.”
I’ve also had numerous experiences of moving to a new town where I knew no one. Finding new friends in a new place is a whole different story for another time.