We’re two days into this 2014 thing and we can’t even hazard a guess what this year will bring us. It did bring us a new moon, the first to start a new year in 19 year–that might be a cool thing.
But we certainly know what 2013 brought us. The rear-view mirror never lies, but sometimes distorts. It doesn’t seem fair that I sit here as happy as anytime in my life and still call out old 2013 as a sucky year. Yes, 2013 really sucked as far as I’m concerned. I hope you’re 2013 was great. We lost a family member and some very close friends. None were expected so the suddenness makes it worse. One of my wife’s dearest friends started off 2013 with a bad cold. She called me every day while my wife was in a coma following her heart problems on New Year’s Day. She was here the first day my wife came home from the hospital. A few weeks later she got the worse news a person can get from their doctor and a few months later she was gone. Cruel. Unexpected loss seemed to be the story of our 2013 so I’m glad it’s gone.
As we move along on this journey together, we each gain our own experiences and hopefully those experiences become our guideposts…our rules…our paths. The only way we gain experience is by mistakes, hopefully somebody else’s’ mistakes. Their mistakes teach us to fasten our seatbelts, stop smoking, wear a helmet, stop using lead in our paint…you get the idea. The best experience we can hope for is dealing with the thing most people fear the most…death. Here too, we gain that experience by watching others go through it, fight it, live with it and succumb to it.
I love the words of Hunter S. Thompson, “Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow! What a Ride.”
This was also a favorite quote of the former San Diego TV anchorman Loren Nancarrow.
We just lost him a few days before the end of 2013. S He was an amazing man and he has had a wonderful blog he wrote while fighting brain cancer. I have two good friends that are fighting the same fight and I hope the spirit of Loren will keep them fighting for still another day.
Here are the last two blogs that Loren wrote before he died on December 28. I thank him for giving me his experience to learn from.