When I was a kid my Mom and two of my Grandmothers had many favorite rules to live by. When you’re a kid they come across as actual rules. So serious that a little kid better pay attention or evil things might happen.
Later in life I just shook my head and laughed at the fallacies of some of these silly sayings.
I remember the “wear clean underwear in case you get in a wreck and nurses and doctors see your dirty underwear.” Whoever started that irrational thought? I don’t think my Mom ever disbelieved such silliness.
One of my grandmothers said it was bad luck to put a hat on a bed. And of course most of us were told if we blow out our birthday candles in one puff you will get your wish answered. And of course good luck is guaranteed if you find a four leaf clover, a ladybug or a horseshoe.
When we were little kids walking to school we had to be careful along the sidewalk because if you step on a crack you broke your mother’s back.
Even as adults we became a little bit stupid when we refused to build 13th floor hotel rooms or hospital wings. Really?
Some of our “rules” to live by were real and well-conceived.
The Golden Rule was taken from the Bible (Matt. 7-12 or Luke 6:31 whichever turns you on) which is “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Our American English used simpler language, “Treat others as you want to be treated.”
It’s still a good rule, but when you think about it I may not want to be treated the way you want to be treated. I may not want you to treat me with your values, your wants, your thoughts.
That’s when the Platinum Rule works better, for weird people like me. People who may have different wants. In other words, treat me like I want to be treated. That’s the Platinum Rule and it will definitely win me over.
Always keep the Golden Rule in play, but some people don’t want to be treated as the focus of attention (like you might want to be) or treated with public recognition like you might like to be. That’s the time to use the Platinum Rule…Treat Others Like They Want To Be Treated.
Have a great week.